I decided to keep our appointment.
She advised me to send that person a message on Instagram asking them to get coffee. All my friends are married with.
I decided to keep our appointment. I felt ready to hear what Bayard had in store for me and was forst to know that there were only three challenges she wanted me to tackle over the next month to help me make friends.
I wrote each challenge down and devoted at least one week to following through on them. Bayard was patient and listened to me vent. But before I did, I asked Bayard for advice on what to say.
I told her I almost canceled our session out of pure shame. I did exactly what Bayard advised and messaged her on Instagram.
Who are the people you sometimes see at the same parties and share mutual friends, but never have one-on-one conversations? The first thing Bayard advised me to do was take inventory of people I know and who they know.
Most people, I thought, make friends without a strategy or game plan. Start there.
We met a handful of times over the years and she casually friendshipp invited me to them at a yoga class. Those with social anxiety struggle because they are in their head and second guess themselves.